Before we divulge or reveal something which pulses anxiety through our system we often prefixed by saying “Don’t judge me…” It’s interesting how quickly we devalue the other. Almost as if we assume they wouldn’t care to know us, so we do not even give them the opportunity to ask why we are quirky and believe something culturally unacceptable.
Instead we might say “Don’t hold it against me.” It implies that we expect the relationship to continue, to go deeper, and further. It acts almost as an invitation into my life to understand why I believe something you might have objection to. Often I think we really don’t want the discourse, and passively push others away because being well known is too hard – and far too risky.
This is exactly where intimate community and transformation begin.
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